I'd prefer to describe myself as a realist, but in all honesty I'm more of a pessimist. I can't help but think of everything that is/might go wrong and somehow become convinced that everything will go wrong. However, some of those things are under my control. Some things aren't.
For the things that aren't, I've been trying to look at the situation from a different perspective. Reframing, if you will. I try to think how it isn't that bad compared to something else. For example, I recently had to replace the starter on my car. It cost me nearly $400. That sucks, no doubt. But I do have an 11 year old car that I'm not making payments on. And the insurance on it is dirt cheap. If i were making payments on it, that might be about a month and a half of payments. Really not that bad. I'd be paying much more if I had a newer car. This car suits me just fine.
For the things I can control (such as my dissertation) I'm trying to realize that I have control over my own destiny. I can make things a good experience or a bad one. I can choose to feel good or bad about situations.
So I guess I am starting to look at the bright side. Trying to, at least. But don't call me an optimist.
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